How to create a spiritual practice that’s right for you
As with so many things, there is no “one right way” to integrate a “spiritual practice” into your life. There’s only “the right way” for you. And keep in mind that your “way” will likely change over time as you change.
The goal of any spiritual practice is to create a regular routine of actions that when taken help you feel connected to your spiritual self. What those actions are will differ from person to person. For most people, you will know when you have found the right mix of actions when you find that you feel most aligned with your emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual self. At any point in time, you may feel more aligned in some areas of your life than others; however, all areas are equally important so each should receive your attention. When aligned, most people report feeling more peaceful, centered, and calm. As a consequence, their decision-making in life is easier and more effective, and their intuition and ability to connect with God/Source/Spirit on a moment-to-moment basis is more heightened. They also report that they feel more “alive” and happier.
How does one achieve this? Below are some suggestions that many people have found to be helpful. However, keep in mind that there are as many ways to create a spiritual practice as there are people on the planet. Therefore, I recommend that you “try on” different actions or approaches until you feel “compelling clarity” regarding which ones are right for you.
- Creating a sacred space is often helpful: Select a physical location that is designated for your spiritual practice. It might be just the corner of a room where you keep your angel cards, pendulum, and spiritually-related books. It could be an entire room that includes a fountain, crystals, or pictures. But it could also be a special place outside where you sit or walk (although that may make it difficult on days when the weather isn’t favorable). Be sure that when you are in this space, you will not be interrupted and that it is peaceful and quiet.
- Establishing a routine that works for you: Everyone has a time of day (or perhaps twice a day) when they feel most alert and alive. During that time, establish a routine in which you participate in activities that support you in feeling spiritually connected (see next bulleted item). I recommend that you make a commitment to how much time each day and how often each week you will participate in your spiritual routine . If this is new for you, you may want to start with just 5 minutes per day three days a week. I personally recommend doing something every day; however, if that schedule is not possible, then make it work for you. If you find that you are having a hard time keeping to this routine, you might want to put a reminder on your calendar or in your day-planner. Or if you tend to run overtime, you can set the timer on your smart phone to play a soothing tone at the end of your time period. If you are going to include a form of meditation in your spiritual practice (which many people do but not everyone does), then be sure to select a time of day when you know you won’t feel sleepy. For example, I’m a morning person, so I meditate upon waking. If I try meditating in the afternoon or evening, I almost always fall asleep. But the most important thing is to choose a time for your spiritual practice and then do your best to stick to your schedule. Our Earthly bodies and minds appreciate routines. We begin to look forward to these times and miss them when they don’t happen.
- Participating in centering & spiritual activities: What you do during your spiritual time is totally up to you. You may do the same “routine” each day or you might decide to “mix it up” and let Spirit guide what you should do each day. Other people break up their practice during the day (e.g., meditation at one time during the day and then do their healing work at a different time). Do what feels “right” to you. Throw out any preconceived ideas or rules. Possibilities include:
- Deep breathing
- Playing music
- Mindfulness (e.g., observing your body, breath, thoughts, feelings without judgment)
- Doing healing work (e.g., Reiki) for yourself or others
- Using angel cards, tarot cards, pendulums, or other divination tools
- Reading spiritually uplifting material
- Clearing yourself and/or space of negative energy
- Burning incense or sage
- Surrounding yourself in white or gold light
- Eliminating judgment: I personally recommend that people do their best to suspend personal judgment and just try things out. For example, try not to evaluate things like how well or how long you meditated. Or if feelings surface during your meditation, prayers, or journaling, do your best to be the “observer” during this time. Simply watch and observe. At a later time, you can evaluate what is working, what is not working, what you need to do in order to take care of a problem, etc.
The above suggestions are just the tip of the “possibility iceberg.” For example, I’ve spoken to people who have a spiritual practice that occurs while doing artwork, when sewing, conducting business, doing yoga, or taking a walk. Always keep in mind that the goal is to feel aligned and connected with your spiritual self, so whatever works for you is “right” for you.